Hello there. I’m Patty Bechtold.
And sometimes, I think of myself as a gardener for the soul.
That’s because my work is all about helping women dig deep and live deep.
I do that in a few different ways:
- As a board certified life coach working mainly with women at life’s turning points
- With a master’s degree in counseling (brick and mortar offices in Sacramento and Santa Rosa)
- By bringing women together and tending creative wisdom circles
- Through expressive arts, writing, storytelling, performing and leading workshops on life transition
There’s been one enduring theme throughout my work: helping women unearth their stories and turn toward their innate creative wisdom, then watching them burst forth like wildflowers in spring.
I’m truly grateful to step into this soul garden with other women. Thank you for joining me here.
As you can probably tell, I like garden metaphors (and not just because I’m a gardener). I actually used to think I was a late bloomer.
Maybe it’s because I lost my mom right at the cusp of adulthood.
Or my early passion for theatre could have had something to do with it too.
Whatever it was, my path was pretty different from most of my friends. I mean, I was so eager to get out of town that I raced through high school in three years.
Starting at 17, I spent about 20 years moving from place to place, mesmerized by the siren song of the seeker.
I had a zillion jobs. Tried a lot of things. Unpacked my belongings and made homes all over the country.
Sometimes there were delightful adventures; other times, periods of high anxiety, worry, and just plain stuck-ness.
Eventually, all that frantic movement wore me out.
So I stopped.
Up until then I thought life was mostly about looking out there: do more, see more, be more. Turns out I had to do my own deep digging and explore what I was running from before I could actually hear my inner voice.
So what I most want to tell you is that my greatest adventure has been to stop and listen to that voice. And then, take the journey home to myself and the full joy of living deep. (Not that I’ve arrived or anything; I think we’re all works-in-progress.)
the professional story
And guess what? I no longer think of myself as a late bloomer.
Turns out I had the perfect first act for my life’s work. It initiated me into all the things that show up every single day in my work with women: empathy, yearning, self-discovery, transition, risk, fear, love, loss, deep listening, conflict, action, courage, comedy, drama, story, creativity.
Now, I can look back and see that even though I got a little lost sometimes, ultimately I followed my heart. If you’re interested in the full bio, check out my profile on LinkedIn.
the coming full circle story
All those years of roaming gave me a unique view of human nature and life’s inevitable ambiguities. I’ve developed a healthy respect for paradox and see the wisdom of both/and rather than either/or.
That philosophy extends to my work too, and I’m committed to an integrative approach that combines both in-depth exploration and meaningful action. My clients tell me this works really well for them.
I also know now that it doesn’t really matter whether you start out as a nomad or a homebody. Either way you can be pretty sure that one day your own inner voice will rise up and demand your attention, just like mine did.
When it does, I’d be honored to be the one to help you hear it. You can find out more about my work with clients on my coaching page.
the rest of my story
As much as I love my work, there’s more to life than work. So here are a few of the other things I love…
- My husband Dave. The man who knows me better than anyone else.
- Our family of rescued kitties: Max, Kung-Pao, Rocky.
- Splitting my time between Sacramento and Sonoma County.
- Long, lingering monthly lunches with my big brother.
- Meandering on the bluff trail along the Sonoma Coast.
- Lavender. Salvia. Butterfly Bush. Passion Vine. They seem to like me.
- Singing. Collage. Process Painting. Art Journals. Writing. Poetry. Music.
- The astonishing women I meet with every week.
- Long walks in arboretums, public gardens, nature preserves.
- A soak in the hot tub right before bed. Or anytime, really.