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The Trust Dilemma, Or Too Much Coke

Several years ago I got involved with a committee. I was part of a small alumni chapter, and there were about ten of us who took the reins that year. Although I didn’t last very long, I did enjoy our early sense of camaraderie and shared mission. There was a little blossoming of community that … Continue reading

Fortune Cookie Magic

On the outside, it looked like all the others. But its circumstances were different. Normally, when Chinese take-out is on the menu, I’m the one who ladles the food out of the cartons and onto the plates, getting them to the table. Once we’ve finished, Dave’s the one who gathers it all up and clears … Continue reading

The Story of One Day, Just For You

Pondering the sniffles on Monday got me thinking about something else. Something different, but related. I suppose I would call it an evolving awareness that I’ve come to after 10 years as a counselor and coach. Turns out I’m no longer surprised when clients tell me they welcome getting sick. Or even being hospitalized for … Continue reading

False Evidence Appearing Real: The Movie

The Scene: With Vivaldi’s Four Seasons as background music, the camera pans across a college campus on a fall afternoon in late 1999. The trees are almost bare and the ground beneath is covered with leaves. Students walk quickly to class, bundled up in bulky sweaters that suggest winter is not far off. The camera settles … Continue reading

Welcome to the Party Called Life

Guest House This being human is a guest house Every morning a new arrival. A joy, a depression, a meanness, some momentary awareness comes as an unexpected visitor. Welcome and entertain them all! Even if they are a crowd of sorrows, who violently sweep your house empty of its furniture, still treat each guest honorably. … Continue reading

Five Ways to Increase Your Comfort During Transition

Last week I wrote about self-reinvention, which usually happens in tandem with transition. I’ve lived through a number of transitions myself, and am living through one right now. In fact, sometimes I think life is simply a series of transitions, with little spaces in-between. I was going to say, “with little spaces in between for … Continue reading

Waiting For The Other Shoe To Drop

Today I want to thank one of my clients for sending a link to an intriguing New York Times article by Daniel Gilbert, author of “Stumbling on Happiness.” In the article Gilbert contends that it’s not the bad times that make us uneasy and depressed, but rather that we don’t know how the bad times … Continue reading

Wisdom

Wisdom, by its nature, is hard to articulate. Maybe that’s the point of it. And while I can’t say exactly what it is, I do know it’s important to nurture wisdom. There’s a saying that goes something like, “the more you know, the more you realize you don’t know.” For me that captures the paradoxical … Continue reading