remembering when we were enough

Lately I’ve been thinking about enoughness, and the nature of it.

Here’s what’s rising to the top for me: when a group of women come together and begin to let down their defenses and trust one another, their collective journey becomes a collective quest for enoughness. And the paradox is that the quest is as much (and maybe more) about looking back as it is about going forward.

So, perhaps, the quest for enoughness is essentially about remembering.

At least, that’s what’s become apparent in the women’s creative wisdom circles I facilitate.

No matter where we start with our group process or creative process, we invariably come back to enoughness.

In fact, without even knowing we’re doing it, we remember bright places of enoughness.

We write stories about it.

We fashion dolls dripping with it.

We sculpt vivid shapes and forms from it.

We drape ourselves in flowing scarves and dance it, raising our voices and singing it back into the light.

My big takeaway from this? Enoughness is a daily-weekly-monthly-yearly-lifelong quest, for all of us. You. Me. Everyone.

We come back to it, again and again.

We tell its story, and remember. Even if it’s faint or fuzzy, we can remember.

We hold this gift of remembering in our bodies and our hearts, the ultimate sense-memory. And it’s vital.

It’s the remembering that begins to propel our forward movement. And we can learn to trust it.

So tell me: what do you want remember about your enoughness?

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6 thoughts on “remembering when we were enough

  1. Please let me know when you figure how to offer these groups online!!!

    Regarding my “enoughness,” I want to remember feeling calm, peaceful and connected with people around me and with the Universe. This is what fills me and chases away any vestiges of darkness lingering around my soul.

  2. My sense is that the quest for “enoughness” is a frequent path for people of both genders, at least speaking in terms of my own experience. It’s funny how “the healthy gets mixed with the unhealthy,” as a mentor of mine once said — the “pure” creative impulse gets mixed in with the desire to please our parents or some other authority figure, and ironically sometimes the combination of both is needed to motivate creation.

    • So true, Chris. Women are not the only ones who struggle with this. I’m fascinated by what you say about the “healthy/unhealthy.” I’ve always thought that the place of true enoughness for me is that middle space between not enough and too much.

  3. Perhaps it’s one of the beauties of getting older, but I no longer worry so much about whether or not I’m “enough”. When I was younger I had an idea that I had to please others, be good enough, pretty enough, productive enough, well-behaved enough, compliant enough, etc. But now I only really care about my own internal criteria. Am I meeting my own goals? My own idea of what’s “enough”? And that leads to the problem of being my own worst critic, which is what I struggle with now. Internal, not external “enoughs”.

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