Sometimes when I’m with a client she’ll begin to cry and then say something like this:
I didn’t expect to do this.
I feel like I dumped all over you.
I don’t know what’s come over me.
I don’t usually act like this.
Of course, crying isn’t the only way my clients express themselves.
They also talk and reflect. Tell their stories. Explore possibilities. Discover emerging desires. Laugh. Ponder. Play with expressive arts. Take actions that support what truly matters to them in life and work.
It’s all good stuff. Including the crying.
Yet it’s not unusual for any of us to initially feel vulnerable about letting down our guards and showing our emotions this way. When we cry in front of others we may feel at our most vulnerable. It can be a tender and fragile place.
But the sweet truth of tears is that they also have the power to pave the way for releasing, healing, hoping and moving forward. So this is what I tell my clients when they apologize for their tears:
Your tears are a gift to me.
I’m honored that you feel safe enough to shed them in my presence.
And if you were here with me today and needed to shed a tear, I would say the same thing to you.
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