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nothing’s worth worrying about

nothing’s worth worrying about

A few hours before officially ringing in the New Year I heard a story on the radio about a man who died and came back to life. He was running some kind of race–a marathon, I think–and as he crossed the finish line he collapsed. His heart stopped. Things looked bleak. But a valiant doctor … Continue reading

the story of 2012: your tests and trials

the story of 2012: your tests and trials

Last week I decided it would be fun and meaningful to look back on 2012 as if it were a mythic story. I created a series of prompts that are a little different from the usual year-in-review suspects. I started with the call to adventure that’s a part of all mythic stories: deep yearning, love … Continue reading

dark corners of desire

dark corners of desire

Bette Davis. Tallulah Bankhead. Anne Bancroft. Elizabeth Taylor. Stockard Channing. Guess what I have in common with these glorious women? Well, at one time or another in our lives, we all played the same role on stage: Regina in The Little Foxes. Regina is a part that’s been coveted by many women for decades. Regina is what I … Continue reading

why I love stories

why I love stories

You’ve heard the story of Hansel and Gretel, right? You know, the two kids who were unceremoniously abandoned by their parents in the forest, then lured to a gingerbread cottage by a sneaky witch with an appetite for young children. So. Things looked pretty bleak for them. But they were a savvy duo, and by … Continue reading

wild woman calling

wild woman calling

You may not know it yet, but you want to wail at the top of your lungs. You want to stand on the heath barely dressed and invite the storm like mad King Lear. You want to feel the battering winds tears streaming mascara running. Not giving a damn. There are waves, too, crashing below. … Continue reading

The art of destruction

The art of destruction

Remember Hedda Gabler? The very confused and somewhat unbalanced heroine in Ibsen’s play of the same name? You know, that racy play from 1890? The one that’s full of all sorts of juicy stuff for its time: scandal, early feminism, alcoholism, suicide, jealousy, sexism, infidelity, creativity. What’s that you say? You mean you don’t have … Continue reading

Isadora Duncan. Wannabe Syndrome. And Scarves.

Isadora Duncan. Wannabe Syndrome. And Scarves.

Me. Many years ago. A high school corridor. I’m stopped by two girls, vaguely familiar, with notebooks in hand. Brunette and blonde. Ready to write. “We’re doing a story for the school paper,” the brunette tells me. “Can we ask you a question?” “Yeah, sure!” “Cool! What famous person do you wish you could trade … Continue reading

Patience

Patience

How do we cultivate patience? That’s the prevailing theme for the week. It’s shown up in almost every session with clients. And we all seem to agree: it’s HARD to do patience. So yes, I’ve been known to ask clients how they cultivate their patience. But I’ve learned it’s not a very effective question. And … Continue reading

One Word Madness

One Word Madness

It’s that time again. When people do a little dance with their gray matter and attempt to capture an entire year in a single word. Okay, sometimes it’s two words. Maybe even three. Or a whole phrase. But however many words are on the agenda, it always makes me tense up. It feels reductive. Constrained. … Continue reading